When you love your wife but are sexually unsatisfied....Should You start an affair ?

J

Gast

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Hello people. Sorry about the English language ! I do not speak enough german to communicate with all of you. But I still hope some will read me and understand me.
So it's been 10 years I live with my wife and we still love each other a lot.
But..... After 10 years our sexual life isn't as great as at the beginning. I feel very bored on this aspect of my life. We spoke about it but nothing changed. At our beginning we were used to visit swinger club have a lot of fun etc....
I had some opportunity to cheat on her I felt bad but realised that I found kind of a balance.
What do you think about this situation ? Should I go on and have an affair (or more) :)
Miss if you understand me and look for a NSA relationship do not hesitate to contact me PM ;-)

Waiting for your advice and experience with dealing similar situation
 
Cheating is never a proper solution. If you love her and dont want to hurt her badly (and yourself being the asshole), Talk to her and say that your unsatisfied and if the sex life wont change, you consider to start an affair. Then you see how she reacts.
 
I had/have the very same problem to deal with and... I decided to cheat. My wife has almost no interest in a sexual life. Not having satisfying sex - I speak about a frequency of somethimes a year - made me feel depressed, aggressive, unconcentrated at work. To find balance again, being a "good" husband and even more important being a good father I had to find a solution on my own. My wife even told me a few times during the last years to seek satisfaction outside our partnership. At least I did so and. ... found. But I never told her.
Life has so many different circumstances to deal with and not just one single solution.
 
Hi...and welcome...to the club.;):D

What makes me wonder a bit:
you ask US, if you should cheat your wife?

I'm afraid...this is something, just YOU can/should decide.:down:

As you wrote...you already talked with her about your unsatisfactory view of your sexlife - but nothing changed.
So...what did she say about it?
Did she have any "good reason", why it's getting boring? Or is it just YOU, who thinks and feels so?
 
yeah, you should defo cheat on your wife, mate. Smh. lamest looking for in a while! You're welcome!
 
My situation was not really similar. I was married and my wife didn't love me anymore. We had no sex in the final years. I had some sex with other women, but my wife was aware and didn't care. I missed to have sex with her despite of having affairs.
I cheated once when I was 20 and as you mentioned yourself it felt bad. Wouldn't do it again without knowledge of my girlfriend.

You had a good time with her in the beginning. It seems, she ist open minded. IMO you should try to work on your relationship, to get there again.
 

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