Why people think too much about sex?

From various points of observation,

• Be it male or female child, as the kid born and grow up, it is happy about everything around him/her. New possibilities, un-discriminatory thought process, dont know which is man/woman.
• When they comes to school and little exposure towards world, their priority are moving towards dolls, toys, sweets, eatables.
• When they become adolescent , suddenly their point of view on world changes a lot, finding difference between man/woman by their body parts. Few infatuation with girls/woman and often mistakenly consider that has relationship or love.
• When they about to reach certain maturity or about to cross teenage, their senses elevated to find the true real relationship in their life.
• However almost most of the people (irrespective of the gender) fall in relationship based on certain needs that are physical needs, emotional/mental needs, financial needs, and social needs.

What is your opinions on this perspective? and here are few questions to members,

1. How to fall in relationship with a men or a women? Should it be need based? How about your relationship right now or how it will be in future?

2. Why people are giving too much importance to sex? It turns out to next question, Are we too much identified with body / physical needs?

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Mitglied #492454 schrieb:

What is your opinions on this perspective?

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sexuality begins actually much earlier, the problem is we have no direct awareness of it, and as such, any form of scientific research usually only leads to more complex, but still unanswered, questions.

i notice it a lot with my 9 year old girl ... she clearly is getting curious, about her own body but also our (parents) bodies, and she's also getting curious about the differences how we sometimes kiss ... definitely the beginning of it, although i have no clue how long it might take before she starts actually building up an awareness about it (puberty is probably a good guess, but it could go all kinds of different ways, who knows).

How to fall in relationship with a men or a women? Should it be need based? How about your relationship right now or how it will be in future?

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absolutely not.
i despise the idea of my "wife" (not married, but only for technical/bureaucratic reasons) being someone that fulfills my "needs", and thus receives my love.
the choice we made to spend the rest of our days together, is one based on a vision of a future (obviously never the right vision, as life holds all sorts of surprises for one, but nonetheless a form of expectation or desire, of how one wants to see him-/herself in 20 years or whatever).
the big difference is though, that this vision doesn't involve "things i will get/have, thanks to the other person" ... instead, the origin of that vision is "things i want to be/do for the other person" ... basically, one of the prettiest (albeit a bit cheesy) compliments in a movie i ever heard, was jack nicholson (playing a rather creepy old single man with tons of socializing issues) saying to helen hunt in the movie "as good as it gets" : you make me wanna be a better man.
actually, let me correct myself ... it's a terribly cheesy line
but the core gist of it, is something i strongly believe in being a big difference between my relationship with my wife, and any relationship i had before ...
and i believe it makes for the difference in all ways, including my needs, although ofc being still "needs" (meaning they still require acknowledgement, attention and if possible, fulfillment), not actually being the motivation why I'm feeling pulled towards that person ...

call it "soulmatism", if you want, but I'm not attracted to my wife because of some needs she can fulfill greatly for me, but rather because there's so many needs she has, that i fulfill for her, without even having to work for it or do anything for ... basically, the way my wife has a personal gain from being around me, sort of makes me feel like I'm a better man ... and then i feel like i can get out of my own shadow, much better, resulting in me being an even better version of myself.
that's a feeling I've never felt like that ... and god knows i tried.

... does that make sense?

Are we too much identified with body / physical needs?

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yup. but i think we're still a few centuries away from making any actual significant progress, in that regard...