Pickup is not harassing women in any way.
Pickup is not forcing her into anything.
Pickup is not being physically or emotionally abusive to women.
Pickup isn’t about teaching you how to have sex with as many girls as possible. It’s about this:
It teaches you how to be confident in yourself.
It teaches you how to get over social anxiety and depression.
It teaches you how to make friends and find love, not just with girls but with everybody around you…as well as yourself.
It teaches you to believe in yourself and what you have to say.
It makes me really sad when people look at us and say, “they’re teaching guys how to manipulate women” or “they’re tricking girls.”
If you think pickup is about “manipulating women,” it’s like thinking learning martial arts is about beating the crap out of people on the street…
You COULD do that, but that’s not the point.
Same with pickup. It’s not about sleeping with as many girls as possible. It’s about creating an environment for you to grow yourself into a better person.
THAT WAS ME BEFORE:
The closest I got to making friends were people who copied my homework at lunchtime or before class. (One time, a girl pretended to like me for a whole semester, just so she could cheat off me. But that’s a story for another time…)
When my freshman year ended, I looked back at what I accomplished…and I realized:
I had no social skills.
I had no friends.
Even worse, I had been stepped on and taken advantage of — not just that year, but for my entire life.
People used my “niceness” for their own personal gain. They exploited my desire to be a good person and took advantage of it. People treated me like a doormat.
I was a doormat child, I was a doormat teenager, and I was becoming a doormat adult.
This realization changed my life, and I realized I had two choices:
Blame everybody around me, and change nothing about my actions…
…or do something about it.
I did something about it.
I started doing a lot of different things (that’s another story in itself), and eventually got into pickup. I went out everyday and failed a LOT – but it helped me learn not only how to talk to girls, but also how to talk to people.
I ended up injecting confidence into every aspect of my life, and the way I conducted myself completely changed. I was still the same person, but…
I felt free.
I felt validated.
I felt different.
I felt like me.